Help for You
What can I do if I'm in a violent relationship?
The first step is acknowledging that it is happening to you and to stop playing down the abuse you are experiencing. Women’s Aid is here to help you come to terms with the violence.
The second step is to recognise that you are not to blame. No-one deserves to be assaulted, humiliated or abused, least of all by their partner in a supposedly caring relationship. Women often blame themselves because they have consistently been told it is their fault.
The third step is to begin seeking the help and support that is available. This step includes gaining emotional support and practical help. You can start this process by talking to a friend that you trust, calling the Women’s Aid Helpline, or contacting your local Women’s Aid group. You may want to start thinking about moving to somewhere safe, away from your abuser, or taking legal action that will protect you and stop the violence against you.
Getting free of abuse can be a lengthy process. Most women try to seek help or leave a number of times before they finally make the break.
The prospect of leaving an abusive relationship can be as frightening as the prospect of staying. It takes courage for a woman to reach out and seek help and this process can be painful and distressing.
